Have you guys played, "Have you ever?", where you have 10 fingers up, and someone calls out an action, and if you've done it, you place a finger down. Last one up wins. Anyway, I have one that will get all us desis. Have you ever been yelled at for stupid shit? Or better yet, shit you haven't done? Well for the past 2 days, that's what's been happening to me. I don't understand how my parents treat me like a baby, deciding what I study, when I study it, when I take breaks, when I sleep, when I get up, who I hang out with, and then get mad at me when I don't comply to their every regulation. Logically speaking, rebellion in itself would imply maturity, because I'm developing my own opinions and questioning authority. Rukh ja ek minute (forgive if the Hindi is not A1, I'm Telugu), kya hai yeh logic fogic bakwas!
So every day this break, I've been watching www.youtube.com/khanacademy videos to study for Organic, General, Physics, and Math (under my parents orders of course), but yesterday I got yelled at for not taking notes during the videos. Yes mom, you know how my mind works and how I study, and that if I don't write the structure of DMF, I'm going to fail at life and end up on the streets. Anyone with Indian parents knows that the conversation can start with grades, and ultimately end with, "You're going to end up on the streets", "We're going to kick you out if...", "You're going to go to jail", "You're going to not get into Medical, Dental, Pharmacy, Optometry School". What ever happened to encouragement? Forget that! Whatever happened to being treated like a human being? Double standards suck. And the worst part is, all the brothers and bhaiyas who get this elevated treatment will never accept it because then they're out of luck. So selfish. I've decided to list some of these inequalities. Add on with your comments!
1. All the things the girl does to help around the house (clean, dishes, cooking, taking out trash, laundry, taking care of sick parents etc) is outweighed by the one time the (older) brother brought the mail in.
2. In my family at least, the girl is never allowed to bring a friend over (even if its a girl) and if they do, the mom treats the friend like a POS, but if el hermano does, the mom comments on his popularity and friendly nature. LOL.
3. The boy is allowed to party, drink, etc whereas if the girl goes out to a rated R movie, she's done the equivalent of having sex and getting preggo.
4. Freedom of money is given to the first born son.
Can you sense any resentments? LOL. NYE and I'm at home, my brother's on a flight to Vegas with his b-school boys. Makes me wanna rebel and study psychology while wearing capris. Oh my!
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Its kinda the opposite in my family, but in most families its the guy that gets most of the privileges. So if it helps theres one guy that doesnt get those privileges (but I am the younger one...).
ReplyDeleteI know exactly how you feel. i have pretty much given up on asking my parents whether i can go to the movies with my friends and stuff. i just tell my friends that i have other plans. it sucks
ReplyDeleteI don't know if i should be saying this since i;m only 14 but you should really try to stand up to your parents. My parents always wanted to pressure me into being first in class and to try to do all sorts of strange extra activities but one day i just told them that i couldn't take it anymore. and now even though i don't always come first in the class and stuff, i try my best and if that's not good enough for them, it's really not my problem.
ReplyDeleteMy school hands out effort grades (it's MYP), so my parents still know I tried even if I fail. They still yell at me, but whatever. It really helps if you sit in your room all day and pretend to be typing up an essay. Honestly, they actually don't bother you except for food :D
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